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It is my pleasure to introduce my colleague at Dr Kathy & Company
Pam Smith, CLC - Relationship Coach
HOW CAN I HELP YOU?
I imagine that you're in a tough spot right now. Maybe you're spouse just told you they're unhappy and not sure what they want. Perhaps you are wondering if you should stay in this relationship or if it's time to go. I hear you. I understand what it's like to be in emotional pain. I've been there myself and I'd love to show you the way to make things better.
There is a Buddhist saying about life having 10,0000 sorrows and 10,0000 joys. I think it's important to remember this when you're in such a high emotional state: sorrow and pain are just as normal as joy. Sometimes the pain runs so deep it feels foreign, completely abnormal, and it's easy to get pulled into the heart-wrenching pain. It's normal to worry that you won't get out of this painful place, but hang in there. There are reasons you got to where you are and there are ways to get out. You're not stuck. I know some very clear steps that you can follow to help get out of the painful negative cycles in your life and relationship. Give me a call and let's start focusing on ways to create deeper and happier relationships in your life.
When I think about what attracts me to life coaching, I realize there is nothing more exciting than helping someone change their life, whether that means helping them conquer their fears, repair a strained relationship, or by living their dreams.
I have a passion for this work because it inspires and energizes me. In some ways, it's like sailing. I love sailing and racing outriggers, but without navigation I can quickly get lost in the moment. We can get so lost in the moment of "doing" and get blown off course without navigation. I want to help people find what it is that excites and inspires them. I want to guide them to create goals that concievably have so much impact that they literally change the opportunites available to them... the funny part is is sometimes it's as simple as taking the mystery out of those goals or changing your belief system about the goals.
I look forward to helping you. Please give me a call when you're ready.
Warmly,
Pam Smith, CLC
949-500-0546 office voicemail
949-500-0546 office manager direct
Click here to email Pam Smith
Click here to schedule online with Pam Smith
Why choose a life coach? Dr. Kathy's thoughts on why a coach could be right for you!
MY BACKGROUND
I've had an ecclectic background where I've rich experiences that have helped me do two things: (1) learn some simple truths that help me help others to lead their best lives, and (2) relate to and understand the uniques challenges that each individual brings to a relationship. I decided to become a Certified Life Coach (CLC) because I love people and I love to help "fix" things. I look forward to helping you.
Prior to coaching, I worked with people who'd been diagnosed with complex mental health issues, including schizophrenia, suicidal ideation, tourettes, and/or diminshed intellectual functioning. Each year, I had the task of writing either Individual Service Plans (ISP's) or Educational Service Plans (ESP's) for these individuals. ISPs and ESPs are basically a set of measurable and achievable goals for the year. Meeting goals, as listed in these plans, secured funding for the agency I worked with, but I often found the goals mundane and boring. This lead me to think, "Boy, if I think these goals aren't very interesting, what must they (the client) be thinking?" When I was promoted to Program Manager, I taught my managers and staff a way to create person-centered goals that were "out of the box," challenged conventional wisdom, and considered at whole life planning. This approach revolutionized our agency! One example stands out: we worked with an individual who could not tolerate noise, not even a door shutting or the radio station changing, without having a reaction so severe that he became violent and dangerous. You can imagine how this limited his life. So we had to get creative and fast! We began to ask ourselves, "What does he love?" The answer: a house party. The problem: how could a house party be a theraputic intervention? How could we get reimbursement for such an idea? Easy! What did he like? What interested him? What activities did he like? What settings did he like or feel most secure in? How could we use his capacities to strenghten his biggest weakness? I knew he loved people, so I encouraged the staff to use every social interaction as a learning opportunity. I developed an adaptive behavior training strategy that gradually increased his tolerance for noise. After a year of adaptive behavior training, using very creative and postive support, he was able to host a house party complete with a DJ. The result of increasing his tolerance for noise was a chance for an enriched life experience with friends and eventually a part-time job. Working with this group of people required me to read and understand emotion in others, by using all of my senses and not only listening to their words, but by gauging responses and by looking at body language. I feel I can connect easily with others because of this heightned sense of awareness to not just what a person is saying, but how they are communicating everything about themselves.
In my role as a Team Director, I utilized a method called "Circles of Support", where you gather together everyone who could possibly support a person with diabilites (mental and physical) and come together to help that person define goals and make a life that is filled with things that are meaningful and interesting to them. In one case, we were able to determine that what one client wanted most was to return to his birthplace, which was hundreds of miles away. There was very little money for this. His elderly mother wanted to accompany him, they both had physical disabilites in addition to his mental condition. We didn't look at barriers. We made that trip happen. They talked about that one simple event, until the day I left that job, as one of the defining moments in their lives. It's amazing to observe how realizing one's dream - big or small - can have such a lasting impact. I realize the long term, life changing possibilites of thinking in terms of capacities and fulfilling goals that are meaningful to you. I want to help you relaize your dreams!
My former job as a Project Director required me to also supervise managers, staff and clinicians. I developed a training called "Transformation Through Inpsiration" which used principles from literature and positive psychology, specifically:
- By doing positive things, you produce positive responses
- If you are creating an enviorment that is positive, individuals will fit themselves into that enviorment by choosing positive actions
- "Throughout history perhaps good and evil shared the same path; but the actions and choices brought out the best in people"~ unknown
and from these principles, we developed some everyday practices that I carry with me today:
- Treat all others as you would like to be treated.
- Make sure each person walks away from each interaction with you feeling themselves "whole" with no part of their self esteem chipped away.
- Teach by example, and and these actions will create a postive enviorment where transformations will take place.
- Inpire yourself and others to do right not for a reward but because it is right.
- Stop the mercenary mentality around you.
In many ways when I look back at my management style, I've been coaching most of my career, unintentionally perahps, but with the results I would want for my coaching clients ~ inspiration and action under all circumstances dire and abundant!
I look forward to helping you. Please give me a call when you're ready.
Warmly,
Pam Smith, CLC
949-500-0546 office voicemail
949-500-0546 office manager direct
Click here to email Pam Smith
Click here to schedule online with Pam Smith
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